Facts and Feelings

Have you ever heard the phrase "facts don't care about your feelings."? It's often used as a way to insult someone when they talk about feelings during an argument. The problem with that statement is that it demeans the other person because they are having feelings be brought up by the potentially difficult conversations being had. I think that facts and feelings are both important and talking about them well is a pathway to better communication. If you don't know by now because of all my shameless self-promotion, I've released a book called Relationship Reconnected (Amazon and Audible). This book addresses 4 specific steps to bringing more emotional intimacy and better communication into yo

Therapy: It's not just about sitting in a room

Do you know what happens in a therapy office? I'll tell you what happens in mine. New clients come in and I ask them what challenges are bringing them in today. It's great usually. I enjoy getting to know new clients and understanding what challenges they are bringing into my office. Usually we then schedule for a future appt. What happens next is what the below video is about. Work is not only done in the therapy office, but it should also be done outside in the real world. Let me know what you think! #communication #feelings #washington #olympia #familytherapist #counselor #boyfriend #girlfriend #relationships #relationships101 #therapy

Teens really want to negotiate

Many times your teen talks to you in a way that seems like they are trying to manipulate you. I have often actually seen it in action during session and have experienced it in my own life. What I have found is that these attempts to manipulate are something else entirely. I explain it in my video. below. If you know anyone with teens who needs to hear this please share! #family #parenting #teen #marriage #relationships #parenting101 #relationships101 #familytherapist #expert #media