As you may clearly know, a new year is upon us. People can’t help but be motivated…pressured…convinced to make new resolutions. It’s all around us. It’s on social media…radio commercials…TV commercials. These venues create seductive messages that can’t be resisted. So what do we do? We make resolutions. These resolutions are admirable. They are attempts to change ones life in a way that everyone understands and finds acceptable. The problem is that big resolutions often fail in a big way. People feel embarrassed or ashamed that they haven’t been able to follow through and self-esteem plummets. Hopelessness soon follows and then you get stuck right back where you started. So what to do, continue on in a cycle or try something different? I always think trying something different is a better option than staying stuck.
It’s important to figure out if the thing you want to change is something you can do on your own or is it something that you need help with. Most of the time people fail at something because they didn’t seek out the support they needed to make the actual change. Determine what you want to change and then find the support people to help you.
If you have determined that you want to change something, then make an actual plan to do it. Another reason for failure is that people determine to change a big thing in their life, but don’t go about making an effective plan of action for the change. Write out your plan of action. Put in on a calendar...white board...email yourself. You need something you can see to remind you of this challenge.
Find a Friend:
It’s much easier to accomplish something hard if you have a friend willing to travel the change road with you. You might be surprised if you seek out your friends and ask who wants to come along. It’s highly likely that you will find several friends that want to journey with you. People love community and this is one way to build it.
Fail, but don’t give up:
Chances are you will fail….Yes I said it, you may fail at your resolution. A loud and clear message you should give yourself is that it is okay to fail. Where people get stuck with resolutions, is that they fail and stop there. I want to encourage you that when you fail, you keep trying. Failure is something that happens to everyone. Changing your mindset about failure is important. Failing and then learning about what led to the failure can lead you to changing your game plan. Once you change the game plan chances are you will be less likely to fail again!