Couples and families

I work with traditional and “non-traditional” families, including married and unmarried couples with or without children, adoptive parents, multi-generational households, and single moms and dads. Being involved in a local church gives me another perspective to work with as well.

Remember, I can possibly come to you no matter where you live.

My counseling work with couples and families goes to the heart of common relationship issues and concerns through focusing on three key areas: 1) promoting effective relationship communication, 2) strengthening healthy attachment in relationships 3) examining relevant relationship patterns (eg. family dynamics). An initial emphasis is placed on creating a sense of safety and respect, while each member is supported in “being real” and participating with authenticity. We simultaneously clarify purpose and establish direction for the work that we will do together in coming sessions.

Counseling with couples and families tends to begin rapidly and to proceed with greater intensity than in individual therapy. Consequently, significant progress can often happen in weeks or months, rather than months or years. I typically see couples and families weekly or every two weeks. Changes that can often occur after several months are:

  • Clearer, More Honest and Heartfelt Communication

  • Less “Stuckness” in Family Relationships

  • Warmer and More Satisfying Connections

  • More Realistic Expectations of One Another

  • Healthier Boundaries

  • Greater Appreciation for the Challenges of Close Relationships

  • More Productive Conflict and Ability to Navigate Differences

  • Increased Ability to Work Together Towards Shared Goals

  • Improvement in Problematic Behaviors

  • Greater Feelings of Trust, Hope, Aliveness, and Gratitude

If you are wondering if couples or family therapy may be right for you, I encourage you to give me a call 360-280-9227 for a free initial phone consultation. I would be happy to address concerns you may have or answer any questions about how the process of couples and family therapy “works.

If you've ever thought to yourself, "there's gotta be an easier way...am I going crazy...why won't these kids just do what they're told..." you are not alone. Thousands of parents and families over thousands of years have struggled with parenting. So know that you are not alone!

If you are a divorced parent trying to co-parent with a former partner who you may or may not get along with, parenting gets even more difficult. Divorce is not just emotionally hard on you, it's also hard on kids.

 

Parenting is possibly the one area in life that we are supposed to just do when a baby shows up. We are supposed to take what we learned in our own upbringing and just transfer that to the next generation.

Well, if you grew up in a home with absent parents...abusive siblings...no boundaries, what you see as effective parenting could be a very skewed. Add opinionated friends and in-laws and things could feel hopeless for you as a parent.

Many professions have coaches and business consultants attached to them. This is because no one is simply born an expert. People become experts over time and then share their knowledge with others. I believe parenting is no different.

As a parenting and family coach, I value your expertise on your family. You are the one who was there from the beginning. This is the thing that often creates blind spots which I can help with. 

I offer something unique. You don't come to me, I come to you. I make myself available for a 1-5 day hands on experience. I will coach you and your family on how to interact appropriately with one another. You can get back to loving your kid rather than controlling and demanding things from them. 

Whether you have a high-conflict relationship or no conflict at all let's talk more and get your family relationships back on track!